Two Sides of The Genuine Coin
We all want to be genuine. To embrace that idea of "being unforgivably yourself". Mind you, that notion is not supposed to be conflated with "accepting yourself as you are" which is very defeatist and to consider defeatism as a viable display of genuine self is quite sad. To be unforgivably yourself per se is to recognise the positives and negatives of your being and to manipulate those factors in an effort to move towards the things you want in life. I believe that is what it means to be genuine.
There are multiple facets that can be discussed when speaking of being genuine but there is one aspect that I believe is often overlooked and so it bears the potential of surprising and demotivating people when it finally hits them during their attempts to become genuine. Everything that we work towards is akin to an enterprise and thus we wish to derive some form of profit. A successful enterprise can be simplified to the phrase of "big profit, little loss" and not "only profit, no loss". It is an inevitable truth that if you wish to make profit, you will also incur loss. Situating the analogy: If you wish to be accepted for being genuine, then there will be those who reject you for being genuine. That is what most people overlook.
Being genuine will prompt three forms of reactions from the people around you. Imagine them as the symbols (+), (-) and (= 0). The plus represents people who accept and support your genuine self. The minus represents people who reject and shun your authenticity. The equal zero represents those who do not care. The reason why it's an equal zero and not merely an equal symbol is a part of another topic that I will write about in the future. Most people are prepared for plus and equal zero. Being unprepared for minus means there is the potential you might reverse your efforts in expressing your true self.
So in your journey of actualising and openly manifesting your identity, you must accept that there will be people who find you worth disliking. Perhaps you represent personality traits that they themselves would hate to adopt. Perhaps you carry yourself in such a way that threatens their own sense of authenticity. Whatever it may be, you should not consider it as a sign that you're doing something incorrect. Reflecting upon your own opinions of people, you will find that you too are guilty of disliking certain people who are "unforgivably themselves". Identify the reasons why you dislike those people and you consequentially identify the reasons why people dislike you for being unforgivably yourself.
Good almost never equates to easy. Becoming genuine and maintaining a sense of authenticity is good and definitely not easy. You will not be able to avoid the criticisms and attacks but you can be prepared for them and acknowledge them as a necessary part of your growth.
There are multiple facets that can be discussed when speaking of being genuine but there is one aspect that I believe is often overlooked and so it bears the potential of surprising and demotivating people when it finally hits them during their attempts to become genuine. Everything that we work towards is akin to an enterprise and thus we wish to derive some form of profit. A successful enterprise can be simplified to the phrase of "big profit, little loss" and not "only profit, no loss". It is an inevitable truth that if you wish to make profit, you will also incur loss. Situating the analogy: If you wish to be accepted for being genuine, then there will be those who reject you for being genuine. That is what most people overlook.
Being genuine will prompt three forms of reactions from the people around you. Imagine them as the symbols (+), (-) and (= 0). The plus represents people who accept and support your genuine self. The minus represents people who reject and shun your authenticity. The equal zero represents those who do not care. The reason why it's an equal zero and not merely an equal symbol is a part of another topic that I will write about in the future. Most people are prepared for plus and equal zero. Being unprepared for minus means there is the potential you might reverse your efforts in expressing your true self.
So in your journey of actualising and openly manifesting your identity, you must accept that there will be people who find you worth disliking. Perhaps you represent personality traits that they themselves would hate to adopt. Perhaps you carry yourself in such a way that threatens their own sense of authenticity. Whatever it may be, you should not consider it as a sign that you're doing something incorrect. Reflecting upon your own opinions of people, you will find that you too are guilty of disliking certain people who are "unforgivably themselves". Identify the reasons why you dislike those people and you consequentially identify the reasons why people dislike you for being unforgivably yourself.
Good almost never equates to easy. Becoming genuine and maintaining a sense of authenticity is good and definitely not easy. You will not be able to avoid the criticisms and attacks but you can be prepared for them and acknowledge them as a necessary part of your growth.
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