Conversations of The Isolated
In a general context, there is no harm in being alone. In fact, to be alone is necessary in one's effort of self improvement as it allows for peaceful reflections and analysis. However, there are times when one must do his best to avoid isolation. I believe it is during our moments of weakness that it becomes vital for us to benefit from the company of trustworthy companions.
When afflicted with a physical ailment, we are willing to seek help as the incapability is immediate and obvious. The difficulty of easing mental and emotional pain lies within its imprecise perceptions. It becomes easier to doubt our condition as the wounds are never as apparent to others. Effort is then invested into ignoring the wound until it becomes obvious due to its worrying severity. To reach out to others would mean to speak of uncertain agony and therefore it feels easier to be silent. Then at one point, the suffering reaches a terrible height and it becomes evident that we are indeed unwell. By then, an ending of the pain is sought more than a cure for recovery.
It is within the period of silence that one begins the spiral into the abyss. That period of self-isolation. Some believe that it would be fruitless to speak. Some are fearful of being a burden to the people they confide in. The human mind never truly rests. Even in our sleep we dream. And therefore thoughts do not stop even in the presence of paralysing pain. In these conditions, we are prone to despising ourselves due to our innate hatred of weakness. Therefore the self-talk only serves to be harmful as it would revolve around emphasising our worthlessness. That is the cycle which destroys us. A repetition of self-loathing constantly reinforced by affirmations of more self-loathing.
I write this in hopes that it will either help you, my dear reader or that you may use the knowledge to help those whom you care for. Before it reaches a dire state, reach out. I do not ask of you to give your pain to others or that you shoulder the suffering of your loved ones. Only that you seek a person to momentarily share the heaviness with or if you wish to help, provide the space for someone to share their burdens. You are not alone and you are not cursed to be alone.
When afflicted with a physical ailment, we are willing to seek help as the incapability is immediate and obvious. The difficulty of easing mental and emotional pain lies within its imprecise perceptions. It becomes easier to doubt our condition as the wounds are never as apparent to others. Effort is then invested into ignoring the wound until it becomes obvious due to its worrying severity. To reach out to others would mean to speak of uncertain agony and therefore it feels easier to be silent. Then at one point, the suffering reaches a terrible height and it becomes evident that we are indeed unwell. By then, an ending of the pain is sought more than a cure for recovery.
It is within the period of silence that one begins the spiral into the abyss. That period of self-isolation. Some believe that it would be fruitless to speak. Some are fearful of being a burden to the people they confide in. The human mind never truly rests. Even in our sleep we dream. And therefore thoughts do not stop even in the presence of paralysing pain. In these conditions, we are prone to despising ourselves due to our innate hatred of weakness. Therefore the self-talk only serves to be harmful as it would revolve around emphasising our worthlessness. That is the cycle which destroys us. A repetition of self-loathing constantly reinforced by affirmations of more self-loathing.
I write this in hopes that it will either help you, my dear reader or that you may use the knowledge to help those whom you care for. Before it reaches a dire state, reach out. I do not ask of you to give your pain to others or that you shoulder the suffering of your loved ones. Only that you seek a person to momentarily share the heaviness with or if you wish to help, provide the space for someone to share their burdens. You are not alone and you are not cursed to be alone.
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